Self-Maxxing 101: 7 Steps

 

Self-Maxxing 101: 7 Steps to Live To The Max (Journaling)

1. Make a list of some names.

List who are the people you go and tell something you achieve as soon as you know it, to who do you call when you have to make a decision. Also do you tell or invite someone before deciding to do something and who do you think of before posting something? Write their names.

You may not notice but these actions take power from you, condition your thinking and your options. This is the start to change that.

2. Learn to tell advice from an opinion.

Advice gives you information. Someone knows something you don't, has experience you lack, or sees a possibility you've missed.

An opinion tells you what they would do in your position or what they think is the correct in general terms. It becomes conditioning.

3. Stop announcing your decisions before you've made them.

The urge to tell everyone what you're planning before you actually do it can sometimes be a disguised request for permission, or open a door for criticism that will take you power to do the thing. And sometimes even their expectations can make you feel overwhelmed.

First do them, feel it, decide. Then you have time to tell about it.

4. Accept that you will be the villain in someone's story.

Accept to be a villain in their lifes, and not being a villain in YOUR life. Everytime you are the protagonist of your own life, you are not in the story of the other.

People always think from their point of view, you are good if you helped them or you did not fight back, otherwise as you have stablished a boundary you are a bad person. And that is ok, accept it and feel unconfortable if needed but let it be.

You don't have to be cruel, dismissive or indifferent. You simply have to accept that making a decision doesn't require unanimous approval.

5. Measure your life using your own metrics.

Choose three things that would make this a good year for you. Write them down before looking at what everyone else is achieving. Accept your own timeline, all comes in due time.

6. Practise interrupting the comparison.

When you catch yourself measuring your life against someone else's, don't blame yourself. It is normal, just change the question:

Instead of asking, "Am I falling behind?", ask, "Do I like what I have chosen? Am I on my way to what I desire?"

Instead of "Why don't I have what they have?", ask, "Do I even know the behind of it?"

Comparison rarely disappears through willpower alone. But you can interrupt it and position yourself in a life so exciting to live that the life of the others doesn't matter.

7. Accept the loneliness of making your own decisions.

Putting yourself in the centre of your life isn't always comfortable, and it isn't always celebrated. Some people will drift away. Others will be disappointed. There will be decisions you make without reassurance, and nights when nobody applauds. Don't mistake that silence for failure, actually it could be exactly your path.